Long Distance Dating
There’s a familiar phrase that goes, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder.’ If there’s any truth to that, then being engaged in a dating scenario with someone in a distant city should bring an almost guarantee of working out for the best.
But of course, that’s not necessarily the case. Long distance dating simply makes geography an added factor to consider or overcome, along with all the other considerations and issues that affect, and play a role in any dating relationship, whether it’s established or just a dating one.
Let’s establish though what is considered to be long distance dating. It would seem that any definition would or should have some reference to distance. But in defining long distance dating, it’s also helpful to define the term ‘dating.’
Dating is defined in the dictionary as an ‘appointment that is made with a person to meet for a social occasion.’ To add to this definition by incorporating expected norms of society has regarding dating, such appointments are made on a reasonably regular basis and serve the purpose of getting to know someone to form a closer bond that becomes a romantic relationship.
Dating therefore involves an appointment between two persons to meet; such meetings should occur fairly regularly and meetings should enable the choice to develop a closer bond with a person.
Keeping the above definition in mind, long distance dating can therefore be defined by the extent to which the above actions can or can’t take place. So for example, two pairs of dating partners could live in two different but neighboring states, but only one pair has what could be described as a long-distance dating experience.
That’s because they live in different cities in the neighboring states. Consequently, one pair live in cities but are able to travel to see each other fairly regularly, but the other pair live in cities where it isn’t easy or convenient – maybe because of the expense – to travel to be together regularly.
Long distance dating is therefore a situation in which distance plays a big role, and a negative one, in preventing two dates from being able to make that social appointment to see each other. What therefore happens in long distance dating is that the dates are able to meet, but such meetings happen infrequently.
The frequency of meetings may vary. For one pair of long distance dating couple, it may be two to three times per month or fewer, or even once every two or three months. So long as the dates are able to make that appointment to meet and the meeting occurs, it can be defined as long distance dating.
Long distance dating therefore doesn’t occur in cases where dates are unable to meet, for example between dates in different countries. What exists in those cases where two people are involved but are in different countries, is a close bond, or an already established relationship.
A clear disadvantage of long distance dating is the inability to be together to see each other and to spend time together. If a dating pair can’t physically be together, then it means there’s a lesser chance for romantic sparks to fly between them. While that would seem to be a big negative factor, it doesn’t have to be.
By using new technology available via the telephone and the Internet to send pictures and video, for text-messaging and instant messaging, as well as the usual phone call, long distance dating couples can still keep in regular contact and keep interest and a connection between them going strong.
When dates do meet on those precious few occasions, those times will likely be more highly anticipated and appreciated. And where there’s high anticipation between two dates, there certainly will exist a high possibility for romantic sparks to fly even if their dating is long distance.