Finding Dates at Social Clubs
It seems almost nonsensical – going out to find someone to go out with. But going out to find a date was once the most popular way to find a date. And it still is a much used practice despite changes in society and the different ways that one can find a date.
Going out to find a date means that you go somewhere that has social activity – a bar or club – to relax and have fun while also hoping you will meet someone new who will become a date. Maybe while dating both of you will even visit the same location again.
Relying on the social scene at clubs to find a date works for several reasons. There will be a large number of people who are in your age group, there will be a group of people having fun, who are fun-loving and who will have similar entertainment tastes or likes in common with you.
While there are exceptions, generally most people will date someone within their own age group. Attending particular clubs makes it easy to meet someone in your age range because the clubs have different qualities and cater to, or attract, clients by qualities such as the music played and the décor. Finding a date in your age group will mean that you and the person can immediately find some common ground.
That makes it easy to break the ice and begin to get to know each other. With the noise of the music and the conversation inside a club, its easier to be relaxed and to talk to someone who may become a potential date. Various distractions in the club also helps to remove any anxiety that you normally would experience in trying to get to know a new date. That therefore makes a club a good location to try to find a date.
The very nature of trying to find a date at a club means you will likely be friendly with a date who is fun and who likes going out. Since a big part of dating is to have fun, to go out to clubs and other places, you won’t have much of a worry whether your date will be enthusiastic about that, since you would have met in a circumstance while out having fun.
A disadvantage about a date you meet at a club is that you really may be basing your decision on limited information than if you had met the date under other circumstances. Because you also would have met the potential date in a fun-loving environment, you may begin to wrongly expect that the same quality will evident in the person and also should be present during dates you later have. It therefore becomes important to manage your expectation and the sense of anticipation you have so that you don’t suffer any possibly huge disappointment.
The atmosphere at a club with drinking and loudness can also give a false impression of someone as a potential date. There will be no real way to tell if the individual is a regular at the club, someone who visits occasionally, or someone who is there for the first time. A first-timer for example, could appear outgoing and friendly because he or she is in a club environment, but otherwise is someone who is really more reserved.
In summary, therefore, meeting a potential date at a club or in another social, fun environment, should still be given careful thought and consideration. The environment of fun at the time shouldn’t play an overwhelming role and possibly cloud your judgment about whether you would really like to have the individual for a date if you had both met in a different setting.