Factors About Dating that you can Control
For any date, expectations and anticipation about what will happen and how it will go, are totally within your control. Other important factors about a date that you will have some control over are the location and how long the date will last.
The location is a significant factor because you will need to be somewhere that is safe, will be fun and is also agreeable to your date. On the occasion of a first date, safety has to be a consideration since your date is likely someone who is fairly unknown – a stranger — to you. If safety concerns are occupying your thoughts during a first date, it obviously will take away from your enjoyment and from being able to fairly assess the overall general character of the person.
The location of the date is also important because it likely will play a major role in the extent to which you enjoy the time while on the date. The enjoyment factor will also be affected by the question of how long the date should last. If your date isn’t very familiar to you, you may have a rough time established in your mind for the length of the date. Or, your date may set a time beforehand. There may also be other commitments to meet, schedule or appointments that could affect the time your date lasts.
Similar to the issue of expectation and anticipation that are within your control, is knowing yourself and determining what you want and desire from dating someone. You need a certain amount of self-awareness because, for example, you need to be honest about some things that you may not like and which can easily upset you. That may include even normal habits or mannerisms that your date may have.
You will need to feel comfortable to tell your date about any peculiarities related to your personality so that he or she is not suddenly surprised by any unexpected negative reaction from you. If your date doesn’t know about particular peculiarities of your personality, it can lead to misunderstanding and uneasiness. But by having the awareness and honesty to talk about those qualities, you will be able to control the possibility of any miscommunication or misunderstanding arising between you and your date.
As you continue to date, another factor that you will be able to control is the bond and friendship you develop with your date. To control this aspect of your dating experience, you will also have to be very self-aware to determine if it will be to your utmost benefit to continue to date and possibly develop a stronger friendship and get into a deep relationship.
There are some individuals who are weak and can be easily led into relationships and situations in which they aren’t happy. But because they lack the courage to do what they really desire, they suffer. You can control any situation, including dating, in which you find yourself, but it will take strong action and the resolve to make any necessary changes.
You need to know that you can control the progress in your dating experience so that you don’t suddenly find yourself embedded in a relationship with someone that you aren’t totally happy with. That can happen if your date has a strong personality and likes you more than you like him or her. Based on the feelings of your date he or she could think you feel the same way and therefore is in favor of progressing your dating to a serious stage.
It’s therefore important that at all times you are aware of how your date is developing, what is planned and how things are progressing. You need to remember that you have a say in routine decisions such as the location for a date, but that you also can control more important matters such as how it progresses.
Because at the start there is such hope and anticipation about dating, the hope is however, that your dating experience will meet and exceed the expectations of you and your date, making you both wish that it didn’t end.